“Just as new beginnings are important, so is honoring the experience of closure “
Life is a collage of beginnings and endings that run together like still-wet paint. Yet before we can begin any new phase in life, we must sometimes first achieve closure to the current stage we are in. That’s because many of our life experience call for closure. Many people say they want to “start over”. However most people I know don’t do it, including me! And I have realized that’s because we cannot see the significance of an event or importance of a lesson until we have reached closure. Or, we may have completed a certain phase in life or path of learning and want to honor that ending. Closure serves to tie up or server loose ends, quiets the mind even when questions have been left unanswered, signifies the end of an experience and highlights the change that has taken place.
When we seek closure, what we really want is an understanding of what has happened and an opportunity to derive what lessons we can learn from that experience. Without closure there is no resolution and we are left to grieve, relive old memories to the point of frustration, or remain connected to people from our past. And If you really cannot move on from that person, well, that are always rituals to do so. Write a farewell note to that person .and burn your note during the ceremony. As stupid as it may sound but something like this can allow you to honor and appreciate what has taken place between you and release the experience so you can move forward.
Most people don’t strive for new beginnings because the unknown is scary. Even though people may not like where their life is leading to at the moment. Many of us refuse to leave our own version of the world we live in because it’s familiar. And comfortable. And predictable. And requires minimal effort. Sounds cozy enough right? No. Actually not. But the average human is funny. We have a love/hate relationship with the familiar, the comfortable and the predictable. In the sophisticated literary terms as it is known as ‘dialectical tensions’. For example, one tension in real life can be called “predictability vs. novelty”. In other words, people love predictability, but yet crave for novelty. That’s what makes life so complicated!! But it also makes it fun!!
That’s why I believe that closure can help let go of feelings of anger or uncertainty regarding your past even as your honor your experience- whether good or bad- as a necessary step on your life’s path. Closure allows you to emotionally lay to rest issues and feelings that may be weighing down your spirit. When you create closure, you affirm that you have done what was needed, are wiser because of your experience, and are ready for whatever life wants to bring you next.
P.S: The above images were captured on Jan 1, 2015. My first page of the first chapter was nothing but simple and filled with happiness with my loved ones and i believe that’s what we all need at the end. Love and spread love ❤